so randomly with no prior warnings (as in played a game completely fine with no lag to anyone (7 other players) just minutes before) from beginning of the game, it lags, to a point of a slideshow, and most players ingame say they see specifically me as "behind", while sometimes it does seem to be my internet and I can see everyone else as behind (because I am the one lagging in that case), and in this case the only solution being to completely disconnect and reconnect to internet that fixes it and that's fine (not really fine due to no warning signs until the game already starts but at least solvable)
but sometimes I only see 1 player as having frequent drops to while the rest seem normal, the ping is also completely normal towards everyone including those players the entire time, yet whenever I ask in these situations, the other players say they only see me as behind and not the other player, implying it must be solely my problem and no one elses, running speedtests in middle of game shows nothing different than usual either, nor is anything else using the internet at all
from my understanding of peer to peer, when there is a connection problem, it is always a two way thing because there is no central server for someone to have a bad connection to alone, only between each other, which means it cannot be only one player's connection being a problem as any connection is a connection from that player to specific other player and thus two way, according to this, if I am behind, that must mean I am either lagging towards everyone or towards specific players, why does then everyone see only me as behind but not these other player(s) that have bad connection to me equally as I do to them?
this is starting to create some kind of undeserved reputation of me being a "lagger" that is debilitating my ability to even join lobbies in first place and that I can't do anything about because I don't even know what is wrong in first place, so what do I do to never lag, like everyone else seems not to even without any effort on their part whatsoever, to have flawless connection to everyone except myslef? and why can't others see the connection problem two-way if it really is peer to peer but only me as the one lagging (to one other player that they don't see as lagging or behind for no apparent reason)
yes I already have everything else that could be using the internet disabled, yes I already have ICE set to closest server to the area, no I am not downloading or uploading anything, I literally have resource monitor on at all times and nothing except faf uses more than 1kb of internet at the time (most of which is windows' bloatware that you can't turn off), phone has internet disabled at the time as well
and yes I am using wifi because I can't use anything else, the router is 2 rooms away and there is never a problem between router and pc, it is also set to prioritize internet from my pc over literally everything else
so once again what do I do to have flawless zero drop connection to everyone that everyone else has with zero effort or struggle, let alone constant? and why can't anyone else see anyone except me as having connection problem ingame, even when problem clearly is between 2 of us, everyone only sees me as having the problem but not the other person (that the connection problem is with)?
on a related note, is anyone here using starlink internet when playing FAF and does it work with it due to constant satellite switching stuff? it is literally the only other option I have (all other available ISP are equal garbage due to oligopoly)