@magge I reinstalled everything, set all exceptions in defender/firewall and now its working 80% of the time, only in matchmaking it fails occasionaly thanks for your time and support.

@magge and thank you for the help so far!

Thats unfortunate but i'll put some more effort into playing with the network settings. I will also try to reinstall everything because im unsure what the settings are right now, maybe i made it worse... and you're right, those are all server based games so i suspect the issue is indeed in the p2p traffic as in some cases i can start without any issues. There must be a common denominator.

Is there a way to see what countries i'm connecting to if I play via matchmaking?

Do you perhaps have a suggestion for a country to set the VPN to? It takes time to even find a match so i can only try so many vpn locations in an evening.